Step 2

Core Skills Training

Core Skills consists of four 2 day trainings. The steps and stages of EFT, as well as the corresponding therapeutic interventions, are divided and covered in greater depth and detail over the course of the four trainings. The following is the standard Core Skills schedule:

Weekend 1: Steps 1 and 2
Weekend 2: Steps 3 and 4
Weekend 3: Steps 5, 6, and 7 Withdrawer Re-engagement
Weekend 4: Steps 5, 6, and 7 Blamer Softening, as well as Steps 8 and 9 Consolidation

In a Core Skills series we will schedule two live sessions (usually weekends 2 and 3), and in addition, each participant will have an opportunity to present his/her work to the group. The trainer will incorporate all methods of learning and teaching, using powerpoint, video, and role-plays for practicing new skills. We have found this to be the best way for learning an experiential model such as EFT and for working toward certification.  

Please click here to find out when the next Core Skills series will begin.


Learning Objectives

Weekend 1

  • Participants will be able to define the elements of the EFT Assessment
  • Participants will be able to create alliance with both partners of the couple
  • Participants will be able to identify the core conflict between the couple and the negative interactional cycle
  • Participants will be able to describe the key EFT interventions

Weekend 2

  • Describe the EFT interventions used in Stage 1 and Steps 3 and 4 of the EFT process
  • Describe EFT Cycle De-escalation
  • Perform skills in helping each member of the couple access unacknowledged feelings that influence the reactive behavior - Step 3
  • Perform reframing the negative cycle in terms of underlying feelings and attachment needs - Step 4

Weekend 3

  • Define the steps in the EFT Stage 1: Assessment and Cycle De-escalation process
  • Define EFT Stage 2, Steps 5-7 working with Withdrawer Re-engagement
  • Identify the implicit attachment needs, fears and view(s) of the Withdrawer - Step 5
  • Initiate acceptance of the partner once the sharing has occurred - Step 6
  • Initiate engagement of couple when the Withdrawer expresses their needs and wants - Step 7

Weekend 4

  • Define EFT Stage 2, Steps 5-7 working with Blamer softening
  • Identify the Pursuer's disowned attachment needs and fears and view of self and other - Step 5
  • Assist the Pursuer expressing their attachment needs and fears - Step 5
  • Initiate acceptance of the Pursuer's experiences by the Withdrawer - Step 6
  • Initiate Pursuer requesting emotional engagement and organizing bonding events that redefine the attachment between the partners - Step 7

Supervision Groups

EFT group supervision is typically two to three hour meetings and usually once per month. Group size is six to eight participants, and group consists of video case presentations, role plays and feedback. Each person gets the opportunity to present his/her work on a rotating schedule. It is a great way to get support and enhance your skills. To find a supervision group please click here.

The taping of sessions is strongly recommended for enhancing your learning of Emotionally Focused Therapy. It is a major component of supervision in this model and video clips are required for certification (click here for certification requirements).

For those looking for recommendations on video equipment, please click here.

Individual supervision is available. For more information, please contact EFTCNJ founders Debi Scimeca-Diaz, Karyn Bristol, Maria Lorditch, or go to our "Find a Therapist" page and search our listing for other EFT supervisors in your area.